Now that I have let the cat out of the bag and told you that my MIL lives in the same house as us, I feel that I can finally vent about a few things.
We have been having a serious problem with her undermining Papa Bear and I when it comes to Baby Bear.
example: A couple of weeks ago everyone had the day off, so we decided to go out and do a little shopping! Sounds fun right? (not when my MIL goes with. I love shopping and she sucks the fun out of it) Well we were on the hunt for some new shoes for Baby Bear because her sandals were getting too small. We thought we might also look for a replacement pair of sparkly shoes. I found a pair of adorable bobs and they were perfect since fall is around the corner. I showed them to her at the same time daddy showed her another pair. Well something happened and she caused a scene saying and wanted the pair of flip flops daddy showed her and not the sparklers. I said "fine, but you are not going to get another pair of sparklies. We are done looking for them because you don't need them.". I made sure that everyone (meaning grandma) heard this, and acknowledged it when I said it. After the scene, Momma was putting her foot down. Well we start walking and immediately Grandma told us to go on because she saw a store that she wanted to go into. We continue walking and when she meets up with us what do you think she has?!?! That's right. The EXACT thing that I had just said Baby Bear couldn't have. Luckily Baby Bear didn't see them and we said she wasn't allowed to have them until her birthday next month. The thing that kills me is that she literally looked at me and said " Now I know that you said that she couldn't have them, but I just had to get them!" I was furious!
This is just one example of many. It is showing us that living with Grandma has to be very short term. Because she is teaching Baby Bear bad habits that are just not okay with me.
I would tell her how you feel, it's the only things will get better. Shes not the mom you are!
ReplyDeleteI know a guy who knows a guy who can make grandma disappear..:)
ReplyDeleteJust teasing..but it's always an option when it comes to MIL's.
I'm sorry! That's just not okay for her to do. I agree you should absolutely tell her she cannot do that.
ReplyDeleteOooh MIL's...they are lovely. Since she's living with you, you definitely need to tell her what's up. In the nicest DIL way possible.
ReplyDeleteI know just how you feel. I have a well-meaning mother-in-law, mother, and grandma who all undermine me. All I can do is hope I'm striking a happy medium to where my daughter gets to spend time with them but not so much that they spoil her rotten. I do recommend putting your foot down, respectfully but firmly. I've found it makes things better, at least for a while... Good luck!
ReplyDeleteMy dad does this all the time and it drives me insane. He is always tryig to discipline her too, and I'm like HELLO!!! I am her parent; I've got this.
ReplyDeleteI can not imagin living with my mil! I hope everything goes well
ReplyDeleteI totally feel your pain. My MIL lives with us, it's been three years and it is not a short term thing. Huge, huge adjustment and sometimes requires way more patience then I have. I wish you luck and lots of patience.
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